Great to be back!

Finally, I am almost at 100%!!! I would jump and dance around but my back is still a little sore. Just a little recap of the last 5 weeks or so.
1. Had surgery, bed rest 2 weeks.
2. Threw out back on bed rest, worst pain ever felt in my life thus far.
3. Got a cold just as back was starting to mend.
4. Stomach flu hit last week bringing back the back ache from all of the festivities that come along with such an event.

But I'm almost all better now just a little back ache from the coughing, nothing like it was when it originally started.

There has been no spanking in the past few weeks and I don't think there will be any for at least another week or maybe two. TJ has been awesome, taking care of me and the kids these past few weeks.

Anyway.... onward and upward...

I found out this week that a girl at work is most likely going to be getting a divorce. Her husband still loves her but can't be with her anymore because he's "had it" with her. Admittedly, she's a very controlling person with a very strong personality. We've all heard the way she talks to her husband and I'm not surprised that he's finally put his foot down about it....but....he never told her until now what she was doing. He never said "stop treating me this way" he just took it and now after almost 10 yrs of marriage he's had it and wants out of the marriage.

They've done counseling at her request, but he doesn't care about it. They have a son the same age as my oldest, 6 yrs old and she has multiple medical problems, the last diagnosis was just last week: Bells Palsy.

When I told TJ about the development and I explained why the man didn't want to be with her anymore he said "Oh, she's one of those" and when I asked what he meant he said that she was a controlling wife who talked down to her husband, treating him more like a second child than a man.

I do agree with him on that point, at least in this situation with the girl at work, but the man can't just walk in one day and say "You've been doing everything wrong for 10 yrs and now I'm leaving" when he never gave her the chance to fix things years ago or even months ago. I asked him if I am "One of those women" and he laughed.

"Not anymore," he assured me.
"I used to be?"
"Hell, yeah!" he answered with a little more gumption than I appreciated. "You still do get a little controlling now and then but we deal with it," And by "deal with it" he means he turns me over his knee and blisters my behind.

So...I may not always get my way, I may get spanked to the point that I cry, but I'm loved and I don't think TJ will ever keep things from me that he feels are damaging to us. He has an outlet for those types of discussions. Now, some couples can sit down and have a regular discussion about things but I'm not wired that way....I need the talk then I need the spanking...at least that's what TJ tells me.

Since we've been spank free for a few weeks and I've been behaving and we've not really had any issues I asked him if maybe we don't need this dynamic anymore. He shook his head at me. "It's not up for discussion,"
"But we've been doing great and I haven't even gotten into trouble," I pointed out.
"You've also been sick and laid up...how much trouble can you get into like that?" he pointed out.
"I'm just saying...if you think we can do without it...."
"No." his statement was flat and firm....and I was very relieved!

......I'm not really looking forward to the first spanking though.....virgin butt and all that. WEG